Transferring Your Business to Your Children

by Apr 15, 2019Family Owned Business, Succession Planning

So you want to transfer your business to your children. Do you know if that child wants to own a business? Not to be insensitive, but have you assessed whether that child has what it takes to run a business?

These are tough questions! We know, because we’ve stood by many clients as they considered both. They are also important questions, as the answers received might just save parent and child from a rocky road.

Truthfully though, those are just two of the questions we ask business owners who are thinking about a family business transfer.

So What’s Typical When Transferring Your Business To Your Child?

Every family is different, but a question we hear a lot is: How do I transfer my business in a way that is good for my business and fair to all of my children? We have found that owners get to the point very quickly!

Then there is that key question about whether or not your child actually wants to run the business you built. Here’s an example of how that conversation went for one of our clients.

Joyce came to us for help with the transfer process. Her son Jeremy (both names are fictional) was her designated successor for her multi-location chain of furniture stores. At our first meeting with them both, we asked Jeremy if he wanted to own and run his family’s business. He turned to his mother and said,

“Mom, I know the business has meant a lot to you, and I don’t want to let you down, but I really don’t want to run it. I saw how much time and effort you put into it and I just don’t want that. I’m sorry.”

Sorry? Jeremy and Joyce didn’t realize it but Jeremy had just given his mother the best gift possible: an honest admission that he didn’t want to step into her shoes.

In our experience, many, many children don’t speak up – perhaps from fear of disappointing their parents. Other children feel pressured into assuming the reins while others are willing to step up, but their parents do not give them the training and latitude to become successful owners.

Of course, in a perfect transfer, your child not only has the intelligence to take over for you, but also has the necessary entrepreneurial drive and personality. That’s just the beginning of the road to successfully transferring your business to your child.

How It’s Done: Transferring your family business

At Obsidian, we divide the family business transfer process into five tasks:

Task 1. Create a written transfer plan.

Task 2. Build a business that is transferable.

Task 3. Set merit-based performance standards to control the transfer of ownership to children.

Task 4. Address the issue of fairness to all children

Task 5. Draw up contingency plans for both parent(s) and child(ren).

Let’s look at each.

Task 1: Create A Written Transfer Plan

Like every other exit path, a successful transfer to children begins with a solid foundation and framework: an exit plan.

Regardless of the type of successor you chose, your exit plan should be guided by three principles:

1) Minimize Risk. You want your plan to minimize the risk that:

     a) the transfer will not produce financial independence and

     b) your businesses will not survive the transition.

2) Maintain Owner  Control. You should remain in control until you receive as much of the value of your business as you want or need. This principle is especially critical in family transfers because family dynamics can cause parent-owners to put their trust in children who have not yet proven their ability to be owners.

3) Maximize Value. Exit Plans must maximize business value (or cash flow) if an owner is to attain post-exit financial independence.

Using your clearly stated goals as a foundation, we then assess your current resources, and calculate any gap between the resources you have today and those you need when you exit.

Putting your exit plan in writing is crucial when explaining your goals to all family members.

Task 2: Build A Business That Is Transferable

Can your business function–with no interruption to cash flow–with a child (or children) at the helm? Does it have all the value drivers in place and functioning at peak performance? Or, are you the center of all activities? If you are, your business is not transferable to any type of successor, including children.

Task 3: Set Merit-Based Performance Standards To Control The Transfer Of Ownership To Children

Family business transfers that succeed include objective performance standards rather than subjective or hopeful opinions. Objectivity is key to assessing your child’s ability, and to demonstrate to your other children (if you have them) that the child “you picked” to get the business has earned ownership.

Not too long ago, an owner asked us to interview his sons to assess whether they could run the business after he left. We politely declined, but explained that there is no interview or personality assessment that is as effective in predicting a child’s success as performance standards.

When we remove family from the equation, performance standards make perfect sense. If you were selling your business to key employees, what standards would you set to motivate (and reward) them over time to increase business value and cash flow? If employees met your standard, they’d receive (generally) a cash bonus. If your child meets that standard, he or she receives ownership in your business.


The performance standards we design—whether to reward children with ownership and/or allocate ownership among business-active children—are founded on your goals.


Put The Performance You Expect IN WRITING

Performance standards vary from business to business, but, at a minimum, they are linked to increasing business value. It is important to put, in writing, the performance you expect so we can communicate the standards clearly to all involved. We will work with you to make sure that standards are attainable, and when attained result in financial security for you. Each time your child meets the standard, he or she earns and is awarded ownership via stock bonus, gift or purchase.


When children meet (or surpass!) a performance standard, they demonstrates their ability to operate your business successfully. When standards are linked to increases in business value, you may be able to leave your business sooner than you planned with more money in your pocket.





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